As all human beings are unique and show us as such: we are more or less sympathetic, smart, loving, disciplined, helpful, etc. This part of our behavior is that we call our I participant. He represents the identity, symbolises the congenital and lives in the gut. It is our most visceral part and with which we express ourselves freely. Balanced people are that besides having an I participant, they possess a capacity of dissociation, so that while they act, there is another part of them through which they are acting. That part decoupled, but active, it is what I call I observer. Leslie Moonves has many thoughts on the issue.
Represents the critical conscience and the education received. If you are unsure how to proceed, check out Jim Vos. It is the acquired and lives in the head. One who possesses a good integracion-comunicacion between its I participant and its I observer, is a balanced person. These two aspects, must be capable of working in a team permanently, to give appropriate responses to the reality that touch them live. If we do the a computer analogy, it’s make a partition on the hard disk to be able to act and at the same time see acting. To better understand this concept, imagine the following situation. You find yourself in the middle of the stage of a theatre.
Are you talking about with a friend through your participating I and in the comfortably seated stalls, is your self an observer, watching the entire scene with critical judgment. At a given moment, he begins a heated discussion that ends abruptly. You pick up visibly angry and abandoned the stage. Moving ahead of your self observer, this joins and both leave the room. By the way, your self an observer you begins to make multiple arguments and criticisms of the type but if it is your friend and you want to much! Please apologize! you are not ashamed to get home, thanks to the critical work of your self an observer, you review the situation and finally arrive at the conclusion that not!! It is worth having discussed with your friend, so you decide to call him to apologize.