A victim feels that it cannot be compelled to comply with their commitments do not see how I am?. 2 It provides an occupation. A victim focuses on his disgrace, addresses of his upset of time complete and evades the existential doubt and the challenge of structuring time. Today we are provided with different assets and satisfiers that facilitate clearances and underutilization of our capabilities. But on the basis of the evolution of millions of years, the reality is that we are set up for the fight, the challenge and frustration; This has made us what we are. Fight is to live our destiny, without fighting we desmoronamos us. 3 It provides a vehicle for intimacy and social contact.
Before the misfortune, people have his subjects talk about, facilitates the intimacy and provides at the same time raw for your group of friends or colleagues speak of her; better criticized that ignored. 4 It attracts people who play complementary roles. Karpman articulated wonderfully to three figures: a) victim, b) Marauder, c) rescuer. The victim, poor thing, is at the mercy of a sadistic Marauder which systematically harassed her and humiliates her. Eventually appears the rescuer, who saves, at least temporarily, to the victim of aggression.
But What is fascinating is that rarely the victim ends up saving because it clings to your condition and afternoon or early returns to her. In addition, the roles are switchean or changed and suddenly the victim goes to the position of Marauder and accuses the rescuer something mira, por tu culpa; or the Marauder becomes victim, as in favorite Hollywood thrillers. 5 Manipulating and extorting even who has close. A victim feels justified to issue orders, accuse, sue. If do not do you case goes bad, very bad, and makes people feel bad. 6 Attacks in a passive-aggressive way to authority figures. As an extension of the previous point, a victim disconcerting to the most powerful and takes the dynamics towards their own stadium. Perpetuate itself as victim is typically an unconscious and by the same mechanism has so much strength, because people don’t recognize that it has nested in the victim position. How to help a victim? Not the rescues. If you ransom it can terminate you as a victim: by walk Redeemer salts sacrificed. A victim will remain victim while not assume its responsibility and result of their actions.